'The Bully Blueprint' by Virgil A. Greer III

Blurb:

The new book titled The Bully Blue Print offers a complete and comprehensive insight in to the mind of a bully, the victims of bullying and how to deal with both.

• Learn more on why your child is refusing to tell you that they are being bullied at school
• Obtain an in-depth knowledge on the reasons for bullying
• Understand bully victims better and help them out on a prompt basis
• Teach your kids on how to spot bullies and what type of behavior constitutes bullying
• Help rebuild your kids’ self-esteem and grow in to strong and independent individuals
• Save up on the costs of endless hours of counseling, therapies and support groups
• Explore some of the most efficient ways for your kids to deal with bullies
• Debunk popular myths about bullies and break away from stereotyping
• Identify the different types of bullying, such as physical, emotional and cyber.

Written by an expert in the field, this book is written in a straightforward manner and offers practical guidance on how to help your kids overcome bullies and build up their self-esteem.

Buy your copy from the website!

http://www.thebullyblueprint.com/

About the author:

• 5th Degree Black Belt Certified Master Instructor through the World Taekwondo Federation in Korea
• Owner and operator of U.S. Elite Martial Arts Since 2003. 
• Involved with martial arts since the age of 10

Master Virgil A. Greer, Born in Akron, Ohio Master Virgil A. Greer III walked into his first training hall at the age of ten, in his home town of Akron Ohio. He began his path in martial arts in 1990 and has been teaching actively for 20 years, 14 since relocation to northwest Chicago suburbs and opening U.S. Elite Martial Arts & Fitness Center in Arlington Heights, IL .

He is passionate about instilling the traditional values of respect, focus, self-discipline, self-control and dedication. Master Greer’s experience andpassion for martial arts is seen in the way he teaches. His coaching expertise works for kids of the youngest ages all the way up to adults who wish to learn.

His training sessions are designed for everyone involved whether they are looking to just get in great shape or they are looking to take it up a level and compete at National level. These basic principals shine through in his teaching methods and are a core value of the school.

He has formed an extremely dedicated team of instructors who are all passionate about mentoring students in physical training and mental development.

It is their hope that every student who comes to the martial arts mat will experience growth and excellence in every area of their lives.

In the recent years Virgil A. Greer III has recognized the damage bullying has had on our community and young children, which had led him to become a Certified Bully Expert and utilizing a curriculum that has been taught to students in hundreds of schools nationwide. Also Master Greer has recently written and released a book titled “The Bully Blueprint” a parents guide to understanding and dealing with bullies. Our anti-bullying approach is unique because it provides bully-proofing strategies for all — whether students are directly targeted by bullies or they are witnesses who must learn how to effectively intervene. Some of the concepts are based on professional protocol known as Verbal Judo, which has been street-tested and used by law enforcement and public safety professionals for over 28 years.

Tips for parents of children with ADHD by Barbara Roba

How to help the child with ADHD

Children who have ADHD need very clear, consistent, and predictable limits. They have a hard time with warnings and unclear consequences. The same is true for those children who remain undiagnosed yet regularly display short attention spans, impulsive behavior, and/or hyperactive symptoms. Children who have difficulties in this area characteristically have poorer grades in school, fewer positive peer relationships,have lower self-esteem, and have more trouble with those in authority as rules and directions are not easily followed.

These are good children who want to please others, want to be liked by their peers, and who want to get good grades. However, several factors exist for these children that may not for their peers. To begin with, the brains of children with ADHD or like symptoms are wired differently than other children who do not suffer from attentional, impulsivity, and/or hyperactive symptoms. Environmental factors also contribute to the likelihood of experiencing difficulty in this area. Those who come from chaotic homes, have inconsistent parents, those who are abused or neglected, or have any other ongoing stressors are at a much higher risk.

My book has 45 inventions for ADHD. Here are four of them:

1. In the moment, teach your child to consider the consequences of their actions. If the consequences are not favorable, they should think about what choice to make instead.

2. Keep your verbal requests simple and clear. Many children with ADHD can only effectively manage one-step directions. Too many words make your message hard to understand.

3. Ensure your child has complete understanding of your requests and expectations. Do this by role-playing or physically showing them what you are expecting.

4. Use nonverbal directives when possible, such as sign language or pointing to the rules as a reminder. Many children become unaffected by verbal requests. Eventually, it sounds like “blah, blah, blah.” Nonverbal communication sends a different type of message that can be even more effective.

Want more tips? Check out her book 'Building Blocks of Positive Parenting':

Blurb:

The book that parents wish their children were born with is here!Do you wonder what to do when your child refuses to listen to you? Do you wish your child wasn't so defiant? Is there a way to quell tantrums? Do you know how positive discipline can make your life easier as a parent? In The Building Blocks of Positive Parenting, Barb answers each of these questions and much more with easy to understand explanations, tips, plans, and interventions than can be put into place today!

Most parents have very busy lives and don't have the time or energy to spend reading parenting books cover to cover. The best part of The Building Blocks of Positive Parenting is that you don't have to read the whole book to see changes in your child. In the first few chapters, you will easily learn the foundations to positive parenting. From there, you take control and get to pick and choose from behaviors specific to your child. Doing so will allow for a targeted approach instead of having to weed through information that has nothing to do with your child and family. Given our fast-paced world, this book is a refreshing and easy-to-use tool to encourage positive change.

Buy links

Amazon / Behavior Corner / Teachers Pay Teachers / Tate Publishing

Bio:

Barb Roba is a licensed mental health counselor and has earned a masters degree along with her Certificate of Advanced study in school counseling. Her area of expertise is found working with young children and their families to develop positive parenting and behavior management techniques. Barb is a mother of two boys. She currently works as an elementary school counselor and provides online mental health therapy to clients.

Find her on Facebook and on Twitter.

Barbara Roba, author of 'Building Blocks of Positive Parenting,' on children who do not listen

When Children Don't Listen

A child who does not listen to their parents, teachers, or other authority figures is one of the most common parenting concerns out there. Listening and actually doing what one is told are two very different things. We can listen to the words coming out of someone’s mouth, but that doesn’t mean that we will act on those words. The action part is a choice. In this case, it is the choice of your children.

As parents, we would like our children to always choose to act upon our requests in an appropriate manner. Reality quickly pulls us back when we encounter daily struggles in this area. Whether your child is not paying attention to you, is being defiant, or doesn’t seem motivated, you continue to be highly interested in them listening.

My book lists 29 interventions in the section of "Does Not Listen" I have listed four of them here:

1. Check that your child understands what you are saying. Do this by asking questions such as “What did I ask you to do?” or “Tell me what you heard me say.”

2. Begin counting to three when your child does not listen after one reminder or warning. If you get to the count of three, it means that your child should receive a pre-established negative consequence, such as a time-out. Much of the time, you will find that you will only have to say “one” and your child will begin to follow through with your request. Tip: Your child must be aware of the process and know what will happen if you get to three before you try
the counting method.

3. Use eye contact each time you and your child speak to each other. This helps to make sure you have their attention.

4. Remove all possible distractions when talking with your child. Turn the television off, no one else should be talking, you should not be texting, you should not be multitasking, etc. I know it is hard, but give it a try.

Want more tips? Check out her book 'Building Blocks of Positive Parenting':

Blurb:

The book that parents wish their children were born with is here!Do you wonder what to do when your child refuses to listen to you? Do you wish your child wasn't so defiant? Is there a way to quell tantrums? Do you know how positive discipline can make your life easier as a parent? In The Building Blocks of Positive Parenting, Barb answers each of these questions and much more with easy to understand explanations, tips, plans, and interventions than can be put into place today!

Most parents have very busy lives and don't have the time or energy to spend reading parenting books cover to cover. The best part of The Building Blocks of Positive Parenting is that you don't have to read the whole book to see changes in your child. In the first few chapters, you will easily learn the foundations to positive parenting. From there, you take control and get to pick and choose from behaviors specific to your child. Doing so will allow for a targeted approach instead of having to weed through information that has nothing to do with your child and family. Given our fast-paced world, this book is a refreshing and easy-to-use tool to encourage positive change.

Buy links

Amazon / Behavior Corner / Teachers Pay Teachers / Tate Publishing

Bio:

Barb Roba is a licensed mental health counselor and has earned a masters degree along with her Certificate of Advanced study in school counseling. Her area of expertise is found working with young children and their families to develop positive parenting and behavior management techniques. Barb is a mother of two boys. She currently works as an elementary school counselor and provides online mental health therapy to clients.

Find her on Facebook and on Twitter.

Meet Barbara Roba, author of 'Building Blocks of Positive Parenting'

Today I would like to welcome Barbara Rosa to the blog. You have already seen her book Building Blocks of Positive Parenting. Here, she is going to let us get to know her, her background, and services that she offers. Then, over the next few weeks, she will provide tidbits of advice on some common parenting topics on which she counsels. Thanks for stopping by!

What was the inspiration for creating your website and book? 

My own children have been my greatest inspiration in writing this book. I have seen a lot over the last 15 years working with children that I felt the desire to share what works and what doesn't work with the world. Additionally, in my career I was unable to find a resource that included parenting, mental health issues, and strategies all in one place - until now!

What kind of background do you have in parenting and education? 

I am the mother of two active boys. I have a masters degree in school counseling, a New York State license in Mental Health Counseling, a certificate in professional life coaching, and have worked as a school counselor for the past 13 years.

What do you offer on your website? 

behaviorcorner.com offers childhood behavior based content for parents and teachers. A blog for popular topics and strategies for positive parenting. Our newest blog for teachers is coming soon. Membership is available for free which opens up the newsletter section and allows for regular emails with positive parenting tips. Online counseling is also available which gives flexible options of email, IM, and Skype.

Do I have other books in the works? 

Yes, I am working on my second book right now that is directly related to "The Building Blocks of Positive Parenting" but will be for educators. The foundation of working with students along with strategies paired with diagnoses and common misbehaviors will be formatted for easy use in schools.

Are children today more difficult than we were at the same age? 

I feel that children aren't more difficult. They just have more to process and manage. Media, technology, and social networking has opened up a whole new world of knowledge that wasn't present even just a few years back. New developments happen daily. It is hard for children to distinguish between what is "cool" and what is appropriate. Parents definitely need to play a large role in this.

Because there is so much information out there, how do you make yourself stand out? 

"The Building Blocks of Positive Parenting" is one of a kind. No other book puts together foundations, explanations of diagnoses and misbehaviors paired with specific interventions, plus an appendix complete with even more tools.

Thank you so much for your time! We look forward to hearing more from you.

Check out her book 'Building Blocks of Positive Parenting':

Blurb:

The book that parents wish their children were born with is here!Do you wonder what to do when your child refuses to listen to you? Do you wish your child wasn't so defiant? Is there a way to quell tantrums? Do you know how positive discipline can make your life easier as a parent? In The Building Blocks of Positive Parenting, Barb answers each of these questions and much more with easy to understand explanations, tips, plans, and interventions than can be put into place today!

Most parents have very busy lives and don't have the time or energy to spend reading parenting books cover to cover. The best part of The Building Blocks of Positive Parenting is that you don't have to read the whole book to see changes in your child. In the first few chapters, you will easily learn the foundations to positive parenting. From there, you take control and get to pick and choose from behaviors specific to your child. Doing so will allow for a targeted approach instead of having to weed through information that has nothing to do with your child and family. Given our fast-paced world, this book is a refreshing and easy-to-use tool to encourage positive change.

Buy links

Amazon / Behavior Corner / Teachers Pay Teachers / Tate Publishing

Bio:

Barb Roba is a licensed mental health counselor and has earned a masters degree along with her Certificate of Advanced study in school counseling. Her area of expertise is found working with young children and their families to develop positive parenting and behavior management techniques. Barb is a mother of two boys. She currently works as an elementary school counselor and provides online mental health therapy to clients.

Find her on Facebook and on Twitter.

'The Building Blocks of Positive Parenting' by Barbara Roba, Ed.M., CAS, LMHC

Blurb:

The book that parents wish their children were born with is here!Do you wonder what to do when your child refuses to listen to you? Do you wish your child wasn't so defiant? Is there a way to quell tantrums? Do you know how positive discipline can make your life easier as a parent? In The Building Blocks of Positive Parenting, Barb answers each of these questions and much more with easy to understand explanations, tips, plans, and interventions than can be put into place today!

Most parents have very busy lives and don't have the time or energy to spend reading parenting books cover to cover. The best part of The Building Blocks of Positive Parenting is that you don't have to read the whole book to see changes in your child. In the first few chapters, you will easily learn the foundations to positive parenting. From there, you take control and get to pick and choose from behaviors specific to your child. Doing so will allow for a targeted approach instead of having to weed through information that has nothing to do with your child and family. Given our fast-paced world, this book is a refreshing and easy-to-use tool to encourage positive change.

Read an excerpt:

The handbook that you always wished you had begins right here, right now. 

At the cornerstone of parenting there are several things to keep in mind when raising your children. These “must-know” items are separated into the following categories:

-Foundational skills
-Communication
-Behavior
-Intervention

It is your job to shelter your children from the ills of the world and then to finally set the record straight by educating them on what they are seeing and how that impacts the expectations that have been set for them.

This may sound strange, but it is true: the best time to inter- vene in your child’s misbehavior is when the misbehavior is not happening.

Each childhood behavior and disorder is categorized by the following three reference points:

• Introduction to the behavior or mental disorder
• Formal diagnosis as defined by the American Psychiatric Association
• Interventions that put you on the path to improving behaviors

Buy links

Amazon / Behavior Corner / Teachers Pay Teachers / Tate Publishing

Bio:

Barb Roba is a licensed mental health counselor and has earned a masters degree along with her Certificate of Advanced study in school counseling. Her area of expertise is found working with young children and their families to develop positive parenting and behavior management techniques. Barb is a mother of two boys. She currently works as an elementary school counselor and provides online mental health therapy to clients.

Find her on Facebook and on Twitter.